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Infidelity and Money

For a couple who enter a marriage without discussing their financial expectations and goals, there might be a few unexpected bumps along the way.

A critical step in having a great marriage is being able to balance relationship and financial issues. Determining how much financial freedom is acceptable for each person is important. Should she be allowed to splurge on the kids without checking with her husband first? Is it acceptable if he buys a new accessory for the car without having to first consult his wife?

Shifting from being able to spend without question, to checking with a spouse before buying may end up leaving one or both partners feeling cramped. Joining in a marriage comes with many decisions, including deciding whether to open a joint bank account and get rid of individual bank accounts, or to keep each person’s original account and also open a joint account for shared expenses and spending. A certain amount of discretionary spending can also be predetermined, for example, deciding that a spouse must be consulted for any purchases over $200.

Further complicating matters, whether or not both spouses are working will change the decisions to be made. Having a stay-at-home spouse who is taking care of children will add one more question to the mix. Just how much discretionary income will be allotted? Having some money to spend freely is important for each partner to feel independent.

There are many ways someone can commit financial infidelity. Getting cash back after making a purchase and keeping the change, or hiding something that was purchased are just a couple of ways that spouses keep money secrets from each other.

Having a secret bank account or a credit card is likely one of the worst financial offenses in a marriage. Some couples agree that it could be grounds for divorce.

If you want to tell your spouse but are afraid, choosing to reveal your mistake anonymously online is a great place to start. Getting to the bottom of why you are keeping this secret from your spouse is at the root of the issue. Going to a supportive online website for revealing secrets and confessions can allow you to reveal yourself anonymously without fear.

Keeping secrets is risky business in more ways than one. It can ruin your marriage, but it can also ruin your health. Confessing anonymously online is a great way to start the process of telling the truth without fear. Once the ball is rolling, confessing to your spouse could be the next step.