Can Online Dating Actually Succeed?

June 4, 2008 on 8:44 am | In Family |
by Pam Baldwin

They can work for you. The downside is that it takes a while to make things happen between somebody you meet, just like it would elsewhere. The upside is that most people feel more secure and have an easier time of going through an online service than having to walk up to meet people. You can get to know them before ever meeting them in person. How to do this differs if you are male or female.

Ladies, I’m sure you’ve asked yourself “do online dating services really work?” and “how do I meet that special someone?” Let me tell it to you straight. You’ll get innumerable messages from guys. To keep their attention, all you really have to do is reply and not act crazy. Or at least too crazy in the wrong way for that guy.

Sometimes guys will take their time to ask for your number or to actually set a time for a face-to-face, but if you feel okay doing it, don’t be scared to make the first move! What if they say no? Well, then move on to all the other guys that have sent messages to you!

So on to the profile. If you’re not the type that needs to hear how pretty you are but are what most people consider average, then you can post a picture. Just don’t make it very big or very easy to tell what you look like because you will get guys to send emails to you trying to get to know you instead of your picture.

So what should you write? You want to show some of what you’re like but not too much. Really long profiles, pictures of who else is in you life, and short stories you’ve written are a bit too much to handle. You need to let him try to find out more about you because that’s what makes them comfortable. Besides, you want to be protected from stalkers or people who want to steal your identity.

Guys, if you haven’t asked yourself “do online dating services really work?” you should. It’s a lot easier to send off an email (or 10) to start up a conversation than it is to walk up to someone in person. But don’t assume that the conversations will be any simpler. You still have to approach.

Here’s what you want your profile to look like to make things easier: write it like you expect her to read it after you’ve already contacted her. Don’t sell yourself in your profile and try to get her to talk to you, share a few things about who you are. Things that make it seem there’s more to you than the brief(!!). first message. And post a couple pictures. One that shows you having fun and doing something you love to do and another that shows you comfortable among your peers.

So do online dating services really work? They can if you do the right things in the right way. It’s different though, conversations that would take minutes in the real world may take weeks online, but you can also get comfortable with someone in no time at all before ever meeting them.

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