Being a Better You Today

August 4, 2008 on 3:56 am | In Home |
by Elliott Roberts

If happiness comes from within, then why does it seem so difficult for so many people to find contentment with themselves? Often times it is because they have been conditioned over time to believe in the negative image they have of themselves. Poor self esteem and personal insecurities haunt many people. Self concept or self identity comes from persistent assessment of ones self, however, too many times this assessment is based on the false perceptions and distorted images. Over time, the distorted image becomes reality.

There are other times in our lives when a fear of the unknown can take hold of us and push us into the realm of self doubt. The fear of failing, not becoming what we once dreamed we would and not attaining success all wreak havoc on the minds eye. When reading this sort of thought, it may sound preposterous, but it is a very real situation for many women.

These self-doubts, self-esteem issues and fears of failure may be the simple three road blocks between your happiness and you. Look closely at your thoughts and beliefs, find out what you need to do to change the path of your life and be honest with yourself about the true causes of your unhappiness. A healthy self image may just be born out of this knowledge.

Improving one self needs to incorporate a mental, physical and emotionally sound life. Asking yourself some of the hardest question can often open up those mental blocks between you and happiness. What areas of your life make you the most unhappy? What areas in life do you wish were different? What areas in your life need the greatest change to meet your definition of success? Is that definition one that can be attained in reality?

Physical self improvement is usually easy to identify but difficult to achieve. While some self-improvement requires you to undergo a physical transformation (like loosing or gaining weight), other require you to simply accept the body you have-and often that is the more difficult task. When we condition ourselves to believe in a set standard of beauty for which we ourselves do not fit, it makes self-acceptance a trying task. However, it is a necessary task in order to achieve happiness.

The emotional aspects of happiness are a bit more difficult to change and require careful time and attention to the details of our past, present and future. Our lives are rooted in the emotional fractures that have created the psyche was now possess. Releasing the hold these fractures have on our present day lives is needed to fulfill our destination of happiness.

The changes needed in our mental state are often those that run concurrently with the emotional changes. Mentally we judge ourselves based on expectations only we understand. If we never achieve those goals we create a negative self image that will wreak havoc on our chances of happiness. Removing all boundaries and definitions of success will greatly improve our chances of happiness.

Life without balance and self-esteem will be life without happiness. The happiness we want and desire is rooted in our need to be better that we are right now and better than everyone else around us. Without a doubt, once we refocus our lives on the things that matter the most, our bodies, our hearts and our minds, the rest will fall into place an happiness will be achieved.

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